When it comes to wedding planning, there are usually two kinds of planners in a relationship. The one that plans everything, and the one that waits to get told what to do. Each comes with its own pros and cons. We have some tips on wedding duties for the non-planner to get them to pick up their slack!
The Big Picture
Before you even begin planning, spend some time together envisioning your wedding day. What style of wedding do you want? How big do you want the party? What’s the vibe?
Answering these questions is an essential part of wedding planning. Then, brainstorm some vendors you’ll need for your wedding day. You’re currently on a website that offers a good chunk of them. Once you’ve figured that out, go on to the next step.
Assign Some Wedding Duties
Based on your vision, now assign each other some wedding duties. These can intertwine with your natural interests. If your partner is really into music, give the role of finding a Milwaukee wedding DJ to them. If they have a creative eye, give them the role of finding the decor. Lastly, if they are indifferent, give them the things that you’re not too excited about. This can be done three months at a time. Make sure to check back in with each other to make sure you’re both still on the same path for your vision.
Wedding Duties For Non-Planners
- Choosing Caterer or Meal (taste testing included!)
- Find a Cake Provider (or, if applicable, the groom’s cake)
- Reserving the Rehearsal Dinner Location
- Choosing and Buying or Renting their Attire (or their respective groomsmen and/or bridesmaids’ attire)
- Buy Gifts for Your Best Man, Maid-of-Honor, Groomsmen, Bridesmaids, Ring Bearer, and/or Flower Girl
- Hiring a Milwaukee DJ or Band
- Choosing the Reception Entrance Song
- Choosing the First Dance Song
- Choosing a few Must-Play Songs for the Dance Floor
- Hiring a Party Bus or Shuttle
- Creating your List of Guests to Invite
- Apply for the Marriage License
- Selecting the Honeymoon Destination
Teamwork Makes the Dream Work
Marriage is all about teamwork and collaboration, and the planning process is a major first time to work together. Wedding planning provides an excellent opportunity to delegate a list of tasks, and also to drive to a common goal. Unfortunately, it also opens the door for disagreements and conflicts.
It is important for both parties to be open and honest with each other throughout the process, and work to make sure there is joy in the planning. Keep in mind that you are planning a wedding it should be fun. The planner must make sure to respect established boundaries, and the non-planner must work to keep up the accountability.
Bottom line, you’re not in this alone. Your wedding day is for both you and your fiancé. Make sure you each have a say and a voice in planning the perfect wedding day. This will be a great collaboration and the results may just surprise you!
Complete Weddings + Events Milwaukee, Wisconsin
If you’re looking for more creative ways to personalize your big day, or want it all captured, contact Complete Weddings + Events. We offer multiple services you can mix and match to build a wedding package filled with all your needs to make your day a success!