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Wedding Duties For A Non-Planner


When it comes to wedding planning, there are usually two kinds of planners in a relationship. The one that plans everything, and the one that waits to get told what to do. Each comes with its own pros and cons, but we have some tips on how to get the latter to pick up their slack with wedding planning!

The Big Picture

Before you even begin planning, spend some time together envisioning the perfect wedding day! What style of wedding do you want, how big do you want the party, and what’s the vibe?

These are all essential parts of wedding planning. Then, brainstorm some vendors you’ll need for your wedding day. You’re currently on a website that offers a good chunk of them. Once you’ve figured that out, go on to the next step.

Assign Some Wedding Duties

Based on your vision, now assign each other some wedding duties. These can intertwine with your natural interests. If your partner is really into music, give the role of finding a Houston wedding DJ to them. If they have a creative eye, give them the role of finding the decor. If they are indifferent, this can honestly work out! Give them the things that you’re not too excited about. This can be done three months at a time and make sure to check back in with each other to make sure the vision is still on the same path.

Wedding Duties For Non-Planners

  • Choosing Caterer or Meal (taste testing included!)
  • Find a Cake Provider (or, if applicable, the groom’s cake)
  • Reserving the Rehearsal Dinner Location
  • Choosing and Buying or Renting their Attire (or their respective groomsmen and/or bridesmaids’ attire)
  • Buy Gifts for Your Best Man, Maid-of-Honor, Groomsmen, Bridesmaids, Ring Bearer, and/or Flower Girl
  • Hiring a Houston DJ or Band
  • Choosing the Reception Entrance Song
  • Choosing the First Dance Song
  • Choosing a few Must-Play Songs for the Dance Floor
  • Hiring a Party Bus or Shuttle
  • Creating your List of Guests to Invite
  • Apply for the Marriage License
  • Selecting the Honeymoon Destination

Some Short Advice

For those of you who are the non-planner in the relationship, try to be as involved as you can! We asked recently married Complete Houston owners Kerith and Alex about this topic. Kerith is a big planner and Alex is definitely one of the so-called non-planners.

Their wedding planning advice for non-planners was to try to keep the planning as fun as possible. Make a date night out of trying restaurants for your rehearsal dinner. Maybe your potential Houston wedding DJ or band plays at a bar or club and you can take a night out to do some “recon”.

Keeping it fun takes a little bit of pain out of the planning and can sometimes turn that non-planner into a planner!

Bottom line, you’re not in this alone. Your wedding day is for both you and your fiance. Make sure you each have a say and a voice in planning the perfect wedding day. You might be surprised what you can both come up with together as a team!

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