7 Questions You Should Ask Before You Get Married
Here’s the tea. Asking the right questions before you get married is like curating your FYP for forever. But marriage? That’s a whole new series of unlocked levels. Before you dive headfirst into forever, you might want to hit pause on the bouquet toss and ask a few key questions.
Not to be dramatic, but these 7 questions might save you from fighting over thermostat settings until the end of time. Let’s get into it.
1. How do you handle stress, and how can I help when you’re in it?
Because when the kitchen sink breaks and your dog eats your paycheck, your partner’s response might be to cry, rage-clean, or go completely silent. (All valid. Still confusing.) Learning how to support each other in the chaos is major.
2. What does “quality time” actually mean to you?
Do they mean watching Netflix on the couch, or hiking a mountain with no service for 8 hours? If your love languages don’t speak the same dialect, someone’s gonna feel left on read, emotionally.
Pro tip: Set expectations early. That way you’re not shocked when “date night” turns into fixing the garage door.
3. Are you more of a saver or a spender?
Because one of you might want to invest in real estate and the other thinks $8 iced coffee is self-care (again…valid). Money convos aren’t sexy, but they are essential.
Bonus points if you can talk budgeting without anyone fake-smiling through tears.
4. How do you feel about kids? (Yes, we’re going there.)
Whether you want a whole soccer team or plan to be the cool aunt/uncle forever, get aligned on this early. It’s way easier than arguing about it mid-Target run five years from now.
5. What are your non-negotiables?
Family dinners on Sundays? Always having a dog? No pineapple on pizza? We all have deal-breakers, and it’s better to be upfront than find out three years in that they’re morally opposed to throw pillows.
6. How do you fight?
Every couple fights. The difference is how. Are you both scream-and-resolve types? Silent-treatment pros? Passive-aggressive meme sharers?
Ask: What helps you calm down? What makes things worse? Do you need space or a hug? Or snacks?
Snacks are underrated conflict diffusers.
7. What does marriage mean to you?
Sounds cheesy, but this is the whole point. Is it about loyalty? Building a life together? Creating TikToks with your golden retriever in matching outfits? Knowing each other’s “why” behind this whole thing is grounding.
Before You Say “I Do,” Ask These Questions
These questions before you get married aren’t just cute conversation starters. They’re essential for building a strong foundation before stepping into forever. Communication is key, and clarity now saves drama later.
When you’re ready to go from real talk to wedding day magic, we’ve got your back. Complete Weddings + Events Colorado Springs offers photography, videography, DJs, photo booths, and coordination services to help you pull off the perfect day, without the stress.
