Writing your own wedding vows can be one of the most genuine acts of love on your wedding day. Your own thoughts can mean the most to your loved one, and hearing what you feel in words can be moving and memorable. These intimate moments are what make a wedding day so special. Sharing personal vows may be something you’re considering, and getting started on writing them can be the hardest part. This is something you do once-in-a-lifetime, so a few vow writing tips can be quite helpful to get you started!
Vow Writing Tips from Wedding Experts
“Where do you begin?” “Do I sound too corny?” “I absolutely hate writing.” “What if my fiancé writes something way better?” If you’re thinking any of these thoughts, we are here to help!
A Positive Outlook
Before you begin writing, be sure you try to field any negative thoughts about the process and come at this with a positive outlook. Writing wedding vows can sound like a scary writing project to some, especially for those non-writers or non-emotional types, but try to begin with a smile. Once you’re thinking about how meaningful this will be to your partner, and really what this means for yourself as you make a vow to commit to aligning your future with your partner, we hope the positive thoughts can start flowing! These vows are for one of your most exciting days, so channel that joy you’re hoping to have on your special day, and begin the writing process with happy thoughts!
Where to Start?
Complete Weddings + Events’ Lisa and Eric Raftery have a great technique to help you get started on the personal vow writing process. Write one line about the past, one line about the present, one line about the future. Here’s an example using three sentences and the past, present, and future method to get you thinking.
- Past: I remember when I first met you and was so impressed by not only your gorgeous smile but by how thoughtful and kind you were.
- Present: Now we are best friends, and I still love your smile and am impressed by who you are, every single day.
- Future: As we get married today, I am so excited about this beautiful season together, to spend the rest of my life, loving you and discovering new ways that you are the most amazing man I have ever known.
We’re Here for Happy Tears
Complete’s Jason Williams states, “If you cry, you cry!” Know that no one is going to be bothered by tears on your wedding day. They may create more happy tears among the crowd, but don’t feel the need to hold back the emotions. Don’t worry about fumbling over words or crying because this is your moment, and you can take all the time you need! Jason says, “write and speak your vows from the heart, as it will be a memory you can look back on through photos and videos for years to come and you want it to be authentic!” There’s no shame in authentic tears darling!
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