When it comes to wedding planning, there are usually two kinds of planners in a relationship. The one that plans everything, and the one that waits to get told what to do. Each comes with its own pros and cons. We have some tips on wedding duties for the non-planner to get them to pick up their slack!
The Big Picture
Before you even begin planning, spend some time together envisioning your wedding day. What style of wedding do you want? How big do you want the party? What’s the vibe?
Answering these questions is an essential part of wedding planning. Then, brainstorm some vendors you’ll need for your wedding day. You’re currently on a website that offers a good chunk of them. Once you’ve figured that out, go on to the next step.
Assign Some Wedding Duties
Based on your vision, now assign each other some wedding duties. These can intertwine with your natural interests. If your partner is really into music, give the role of finding a Tulsa wedding DJ to them. If they have a creative eye, give them the role of finding the decor. Lastly, if they are indifferent, give them the things that you’re not too excited about. This can be done three months at a time. Make sure to check back in with each other to make sure you’re both still on the same path for your vision.
Wedding Duties For Non-Planners
- Choosing Caterer or Meal (taste testing included!)
- Find a Cake Provider (or, if applicable, the groom’s cake)
- Reserving the Rehearsal Dinner Location
- Choosing and Buying or Renting their Attire (or their respective groomsmen and/or bridesmaids’ attire)
- Buy Gifts for Your Best Man, Maid-of-Honor, Groomsmen, Bridesmaids, Ring Bearer, and/or Flower Girl
- Hiring a Tulsa wedding DJ or Band
- Choosing the Reception Entrance Song
- Choosing the First Dance Song
- Choosing a few Must-Play Songs for the Dance Floor
- Hiring a Party Bus or Shuttle
- Creating your List of Guests to Invite
- Apply for the Marriage License
- Selecting the Honeymoon Destination
Tips for the Non-Planners
When you aren’t a planning type of person, a wedding and all that comes along with planning can be intimidating. However, there are many things that you can do to help alleviate the stress. If you are in charge of the music, then look for a Tulsa wedding DJ that you think is the right fit. There are so many DJs of different styles out there that you probably don’t even know what kind of fit you are wanting. It comes down to what vibe you and your fiancé are trying to achieve on your big day.
If you want a party, then find a party DJ in Tulsa. If you are both wanting more of a social event, then find a more laid-back DJ. We have some great DJs here at Complete Weddings + Events in Tulsa. Express to the DJ you are talking to about what vibe you are going for and they will help steer you in the right direction.
The bottom line, you’re not in this alone. Your wedding day is for both you and your fiancé. Make sure you each have a say and a voice in planning your perfect. You might be surprised what you can both come up with together as a team!
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