When it comes to wedding planning, there are usually two kinds of planners in a relationship. The one that plans everything, and the one that waits to get told what to do. Each comes with its own pros and cons. We have some tips on wedding duties for the non-planner to get them to pick up their slack!
The Big Picture
Before you even begin planning, spend some time together envisioning your wedding day. What style of wedding do you want? How big do you want the party? What’s the vibe?
Answering these questions is an essential part of wedding planning. Then, brainstorm some vendors you’ll need for your wedding day. You’re currently on a website that offers a good chunk of them. Once you’ve figured that out, go on to the next step.
Assign Some Wedding Duties
Based on your vision, now assign each other some wedding duties. These can intertwine with your natural interests. If your partner is really into music, give the role of finding a Rochester wedding DJ to them. If they have a creative eye, give them the role of finding the decor. Lastly, if they are indifferent, give them the things that you’re not too excited about. This can be done three months at a time. Make sure to check back in with each other to make sure you’re both still on the same path for your vision.
Wedding Duties For The Non-Planner
Plan A Self-Care Night
If you find yourself wanting to plan the wedding on your own, that’s completely fine. Talk it over with your fiance and have them plan something that’s just as important to wedding planning; self-care. After spending hours on end planning such a tremendous day, a spa night or self-care night is much needed.
Let your fiance do what they do best to make sure you’re at peace of mind. It could be something that recurs once a month through your planning. Take that moment to destress!
Plan The Honeymoon
Another way to be helpful in wedding duties is something beyond the wedding. Plan the honeymoon! The wedding planner of the two of you will be swept in all things wedding planning. Take one thing off their plate by planning your honeymoon.
Whether you’re doing a staycation or going overseas, it’ll go a long way. Look up your destination, flights, hotels, and attractions you don’t want to miss during your trip. It will be amazing knowing that after the wedding is all said and done, the honeymoon is all ready to go.
More Wedding Duties For Non-Planners
- Choosing Caterer or Meal (taste testing included!)
- Find a Cake Provider (or, if applicable, the groom’s cake)
- Reserving the Rehearsal Dinner Location
- Choosing and Buying or Renting their Attire (or their respective groomsmen and/or bridesmaids’ attire)
- Buy Gifts for Your Best Man, Maid-of-Honor, Groomsmen, Bridesmaids, Ring Bearer, and/or Flower Girl
- Hiring a Rochester DJ or Band
- Choosing the Reception Entrance Song
- Choosing the First Dance Song
- Choosing a few Must-Play Songs for the Dance Floor
- Hiring a Party Bus or Shuttle
- Creating your List of Guests to Invite
- Apply for the Marriage License
Bottom line, you’re not in this alone. Your wedding day is for both you and your fiance. Make sure you each have a say and a voice in planning the perfect wedding day. You might be surprised what you can both come up with together as a team!