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Wedding Duties For A Non-Planner


Bride holding veil on her wedding day

When it comes to wedding planning, there are usually two kinds of planners in a relationship. The one that plans everything, and the one that waits to get told what to do. Each comes with its own pros and cons. We have some tips on wedding duties for the non-planner to get them to pick up their slack!

The Big Picture

Before you even begin planning, spend some time together envisioning your wedding day. What style of wedding do you want? How big do you want the party? What’s the vibe?

Answering these questions is an essential part of wedding planning. Then, brainstorm some vendors you’ll need for your wedding day. You’re currently on a website that offers a good chunk of them. Once you’ve figured that out, go on to the next step.

Assign Some Wedding Duties

Now assign each other some wedding duties based on your vision. These can intertwine with your natural interests. If your partner is really into music, give the role of finding a Rapid City wedding DJ to them. If they have a creative eye, give them the role of finding the decor. Lastly, if they are indifferent, give them the things that you’re not too excited about. This can be done three months at a time. Make sure to check back in with each other to make sure you’re both still on the same path for your vision.

Wedding Duties For Non-Planners

  • Choosing Caterer or Meal (taste testing included!)
  • Find a Cake Provider (or, if applicable, the groom’s cake)
  • Reserving the Rehearsal Dinner Location
  • Choosing and Buying or Renting their Attire (or their respective groomsmen and/or bridesmaids’ attire)
  • Buy Gifts for Your Best Man, Maid-of-Honor, Groomsmen, Bridesmaids, Ring Bearer, and/or Flower Girl
  • Hiring a Rapid City DJ or Band
  • Choosing the Reception Entrance Song
  • Choosing the First Dance Song
  • Choosing a few Must-Play Songs for the Dance Floor
  • Hiring a Party Bus or Shuttle
  • Creating your List of Guests to Invite
  • Apply for the Marriage License
  • Selecting the Honeymoon Destination

Delegate Tasks

While the above-listed wedding duties for a non-planner may seem excessive, there are ways to take the stress away. Consider delegating some of these (cake search and making reservations) to your bridal party. Involving your best friends in the wedding planning process will bring you closer together. It also may be helpful on the wedding day since more people will have a grasp on the day’s events.

cake cut one of the wedding duties for non-planner


Getting Ahead On Wedding Planning

Don’t underestimate the power of making lists. If you are a non-planner, your fiancé probably has a “laundry list” of things they want to run by you. Help them out by creating a simple one-a-day task list in your mobile calendar. You will need to accomplish only one thing a day (or maybe a week?). Next thing you know – it’s all done and ready to go. You will also score some serious brownie points with your other half by letting them know things are being done BEFORE they ask!

The bottom line is that you’re not alone in this. Your wedding day is for both you and your fiancé. Make sure you each have a say and a voice in planning the perfect wedding day. You might be surprised what you can both come up with together as a team! Still, feeling overwhelmed by a wedding planning process? Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for more helpful tips and wedding advice.

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