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Things To Avoid When It Comes to Your Wedding Music

Things To Avoid When It Comes to Your Wedding Music

4.27.21

Music brings your wedding celebration to life, guiding the mood, enhancing key moments, and keeping guests on their feet. In San Antonio, where weddings blend cultural traditions with modern flair, working with an experienced DJ ensures your event feels personal and unforgettable.

Collaborating with a professional DJ helps turn your vision into a seamless experience, but even the best entertainment can fall flat without the right preparation. From mismatched playlists to overlooked guest preferences, small missteps can impact the atmosphere. This guide outlines the most common wedding music mistakes couples make, and how to partner with your San Antonio DJ to create a smooth, energetic flow from start to finish. Here is a shortlist of easily avoidable wedding music challenges.

Things To Avoid When It Comes to Your Wedding Music in San Antonio

Not Playing Songs Your Guests Want to Hear

Your wedding day music reflects your musical tastes, and part of being the host includes catering to the crows for some part of the celebration.  Starting early with a little swing music and early rock-n-roll hits or classic rock will often bring out people from the wedding party that wouldn’t have otherwise hit the dance floor.  But once the night wears on, and it’s just the die-hard party animals, the DJ literally can turn on whatever music you want and jam out.

Sticking to Just One Genre … Don’t do it

Make sure to take all guests into consideration when selecting wedding reception music, especially if you have a diverse audience. Talk to your DJ about the breakdown of your crowd so they can suggest cross-generational hits to keep things lively for everyone.  Once the dance floor has opened up for the evening, keep the energy up with a majority of up-tempo songs. “You can get away with a few more mid-tempo tunes interspersed throughout, but nothing sucks the energy off a dance floor like too many slow love songs.

Not Including “Play” and “Do Not Play” Lists

At Complete Weddings + Events, each of our couples has access to an online Event Manager that they can use to communicate their expectations including songs to choose that are Must Play and Do Not Play. Our DJ event staff and operations manager has access to your planning forms throughout and during your planning and event and are very helpful in making sure we are fully prepared for your wedding celebration.

Here are some examples of what you can include in your playlist preferences:

  • Songs for your grand entrance, cake cutting, and first dance
  • A list of must-play tracks that reflect your personal style
  • A list of do-not-play songs to avoid unwanted moments
  • Special requests from friends or family members
  • Backup songs to fill in if there are last-minute changes
  • Notes about reception entertainment pacing and mood changes

Creating a detailed playlist outline allows your DJ to better understand your vision while leaving room for flexibility to adjust based on real-time feedback from the crowd.

Choosing Songs With Awkward or Inappropriate Lyrics

It’s important to avoid music with cringe-worthy lyrics, especially when it comes to your special dances. Our standard approach is to play only radio edit music at weddings and special events striving to keep things classy as possible.

The Music Is Too Loud

Who doesn’t like a solid baseline?!?!  But ideally, you want to send guests home with favors and fond memories, not a pounding migraine!  Strive to keep the sound level reasonable since not everyone will be able to appreciate a dance club type atmosphere. Remember to ask your DJ to avoid making it too loud to the point in which guests can’t converse throughout the reception.

Not Providing Adequate Shade During an Outdoor Event

Complete Weddings + Events – DJs use equipment that is sensitive to temperature.  Even if there are plenty of trees at your ceremony or venue site, DJs should be in the shade at all times. Work with the venue to provide a canopy or umbrella that can be adjusted as the sun moves.

A First Dance Song That’s Too Long

The first dance should be no longer than two or three minutes at the very max so that guests don’t lose interest. Have a fun pre-wedding dance party to “test” out your favorites and narrow them down. We encourage couples to pick the one that’s the most meaningful and to move the rest of the favorites to the playlist later in the evening so that it’s a win-win for everyone.

Letting the Speeches and Toasts Run On

As a recovering father-of-the-bride, I am guilty of this one.  Making guests sit through speeches and formalities for the first 30 minutes to an hour can kill the party atmosphere. Give each toast-maker a specific time limit to help them stay on track.

Micro-Managing the Playlist

Your DJ brings experience reading the room and adjusting music in real time. Being too rigid with the playlist can block natural momentum. Trust your wedding DJ San Antonio professional to guide the musical journey. Let the DJ adjust based on crowd reactions to maintain the energy and enjoyment throughout the night.

Forgetting to Schedule a Pre-Wedding Music Check-In

Last-minute surprises can easily be avoided with a pre-wedding check-in. Set aside time the week of your wedding for a quick call or meeting with your San Antonio DJ to confirm final details. Review your timeline, discuss recent song changes, and go over any new announcements or surprises added to the program. This short meeting helps your DJ prepare, ensuring a smoother and more confident performance throughout the event.

How to Maximize Your DJ Experience in San Antonio

A professional DJ does more than press play. They read the room, manage transitions, and help create the emotional highs and relaxed moments throughout your wedding. To get the most out of your DJ experience, consider the following:

  • Share your vision early: Provide musical preferences, genres, and important cues during initial consultations.
  • Respect their expertise: Trust your DJ to adjust based on crowd engagement and energy levels.
  • Provide name pronunciations: DJs often handle wedding party introductions — make sure they know how to pronounce everyone’s name correctly.
  • Mention cultural elements: If your celebration includes specific traditions or dances, communicate those in advance.
  • Coordinate with vendors: Encourage your DJ to sync with your coordinator, videographer, and other vendors for seamless timing.

These small but important actions lead to a polished performance that elevates your wedding experience.

Speaking With Your Wedding DJ to Align Your Vision

Clear communication with your DJ is essential to making your event feel personalized and polished. A collaborative conversation ensures every moment of your wedding has the right soundtrack, tone, and flow.

Talk Through Your Event Timeline

Share your ceremony and reception timeline in detail so your DJ can time transitions, announcements, and energy shifts appropriately. Knowing when to slow it down and when to pick up the tempo helps maintain a steady party atmosphere.

Discuss Musical Styles and Preferences

Let your DJ know what kind of vibe you’re aiming for. From romantic and elegant to upbeat and modern, your DJ can help build a custom wedding soundtrack that reflects your style. Discuss any specific genres or reception entertainment goals you want to incorporate.

Address Venue Acoustics and Sound Setup

Every venue is different. Let your DJ visit or review the layout to prepare the right event audio setup. This ensures they bring the right sound equipment setup to balance volume, avoid feedback, and provide smooth sound from ceremony to last dance.

Clarify Your Must-Play and Do-Not-Play Songs

Revisit your DJ playlist management list together to make sure nothing is overlooked. DJs appreciate clear guidelines, and couples gain peace of mind knowing key songs are included or excluded, at the right moments.

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Author: Kevin Paladino

Complete Weddings + Events, San Antonio’s leading provider of event and wedding photography, videography, lighting, coordination, DJ services, coordination, & photo booth rental.

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